I'm a people pleaser. It is just my nature. I want the people around me to feel loved and cared for.
I'm also direct. When you do something I feel is harmful, I'm not going to beat around the bush and keep quiet. I'm going to politely go to you and let you know that what you are doing is hurting me. Tactful, but direct.
Through the inevitable difficulty this has brought at times, I'm learning something important.
How to say no.
How to say "no" to a friendship. How to say "no" to a conversation. How to say "no" to participating in events with people who do harmful things, no matter how guilty I feel. I have to do what is best for me.
I've also learned:
Why I don't always have to explain myself if someone thinks ill of me. God will show them in time what truth is.
Why sometimes the best thing to say is nothing, even when someone is attacking you. Again, God reveals truth.
Why I have just one person whose opinion I should be concerned about - and that is God.
Why you should choose friends and confidants wisely, because inevitably, when you make a poor choice in a friend, they will betray you in ways you never thought possible. God is the best confidant. He will never disappoint me.
There are things that we all need to learn about our strengths and our weaknesses, and I choose to be a person who listens to criticism, and try to improve.
Oprah once said, "Turn your wounds into wisdom." I plan on doing just that.